my wife beats me : Domestic Violence

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She kept saying, Not now and getting my hopes up by saying she thought about doing me a hand favor during the day but didn't. I tried to knock her arms away and I got up and tried to help her get perspective I explained that hitting someone with a closed fist is actionable if I were to call police. It is bad when a man hits his wife - pretty much unforgivable, in my book.

I contacted old friends who were happy to help me. We have 4 kids together and I'm very afraid of what will happen to them if she's allowed to raise them alone.

My wife hit me tonight : Divorce

I assume you are not talking about a playful jab on the arm or whack on the shoulder, but talking about hitting you to hurt you. It is bad when a man hits his wife - pretty much unforgivable, in my book. Men are typically larger and stronger than women, and beating up on someone smaller and weaker than one's self speaks to a particularly inferior personality type. Besides, you never hit the person with whom you make love. The only thing possibly worse than a man hitting his wife is a woman hitting her husband. This is because she is taking advantage of the socialization a man goes through: men are not supposed to hit women. Most men would not hit a woman even in self defense, precisely because of that social conditioning. Abused husbands are maybe the hidden casualties of spouse-abuse. They do not seek help because they are afraid of looking weak or cowardly or unmanly. Many think they should be able to man up and take it. The problem with abuse is that if it is not stopped immediately, it will never stop. Man or woman, once someone starts hitting their spouse and getting away with it, the psychological barrier against abusing starts to break down. After the second or third time, that barrier is pretty much gone. If this is something that has been going on for a while i. Pack your bags and if you have children, pack theirs as well and leave. If she assaults you again before you are able to leave, call the police and file charges. Do not put faith in counselling or therapy until you have left her I know a therapist who does marriage counselling, and he admitted that couples who seek counselling are usually already too far gone to salvage the marriage - therapy becomes a matter of helping the couple to manage their split. If this is a recent development, you might try the threat of retaliation If you hit me again, I will hit back. It took my wife two times to learn I would not accept any form of physical abuse. I have never hit her - two wrongs don't make a right. But this sort of thing would only work after the first or second beating. After that, you have no credibility when it comes to threatening her. Your best bet: Get a good lawyer and file for divorce. Child custody is not usually an issue in cases of an abusive spouse. Do what you need in order to get out of an abusive relationship. I was in a situation where a girl I loved the most hit me after I got a little irritated with her. We lived together for 4 months, although she never wanted to call it a relationship, it was a relationship because we acted like a couple without the label. We even wife hits me a one night stand together, we shared the same room we were physically close to each other. She wife hits me taking me for granted and criticizing everything I did, no matter my good intentions. One night after I started getting irritated with her, she ran to the bedroom door and screamed at the top of her lungs, then she followed me outside and hit me in the face twice. I had a bruised eye and a cut on my lip. I did not want to see if she was going to treat me that way again because often times, when they hit you once they will do it again. She saw she was losing control over you and she felt threatened she reacted with anger and violence. So if a woman hits you, do not give her a chance to ever hit you again. After kicking her out of your life she will go through a period of thought. Should I stay friends or partners with him or should I wife hits me separate. Even though you were the victim of abuse, you have won and you have the last laugh. Women who are like this often act this way no matter what man she is with. These women are very insecure about themselves and have no ability to control their emotions or think critically during difficult situations or the ability to solve their issues in a civilized manner or be responsible for themselves in their own lives. So they use violence instead to try and gain the upper hand over their partner or whatever man she is with no matter what kind of arrangement she is in with him. When you start experiencing domestic violence it is best to end the relationship the first time it happens and not look back. Your problem is that most providers who service this community only service women. Men in our society are hesitant to admit to being abused by a woman and if she hits you that is abuse. Law enforcement and courts are hesitant to admit that women are as violent as men. That simple fact kind of says it all. Having said this, and having worked with this wife hits me for years, I would suggest that you seek counselling. Once someone starts hitting you wife hits me are unlikely to stop and likely to escalate. I hope you are not at this point, though. Either way getting through this and keeping the relationship intact is, to say the least difficult. Chances are that she will cheat on you with another man, damage your credit, and humiliate you in front of others. Now how can you fix that gapping hole in your heart. Leave that job for a paid phyciatrist ,take your mom out to eat once a week with the money and hassle you saved. That women will never hurt you. You may feel like your world is over when you splitbut those angels never had a chance at a normal life. Be a role model, give light to those poor kids. Get your mind rightmake your own choices; if not someone hateful gal of yours will make them jail hospital in debt for you. Physical Violence is not justified under any circumstances… especially between spouses. There is a need for you and your spouse to seek professional help as the symptoms are not good. There is no shame in seeking help. I tend to believe a lot women do this when we do something they get mad at. Ask her calmly why did she hit you. If she gets out of control and injure you badly. Go out safely and call police.

You unconsciously caused her to withhold thoughts possibly deal breakers on your very first date. Besides the feeling questions I have asked above, do you think a judge would award her anything more than half the equity of the house? If he called me up one night and said, dad…. Tell her, Either we both get counseling separately , or I'm moving out until you're ready to help me resolve this problem. She's a good mother and sometimes a good wife. No actualized parent would raise a child to attract an abusive spouse. But my kids are everything to me and mean all the world and I cant find any worth in my life without them. I wrestle with this situation and with the comments on here in support of just tip toeing around the abusive behavior in the hope that one day they will see the light or hit bottom enough times. If she's not public enemy 1, she'll probably get ordered to take some anger management counseling and she'd be put on probation for a year. I know there are abused wives out there but what about abused husbands?